I wrote a book about how I was able to reconnect with my mother, who left our family in 1979 when I was only 5 years old. She never came back. I didn’t have contact with her for many many years. In 2015 we got in touch, I really wanted to know what had happened all those years ago and wanted to hear 'her side of the story'. We started writing letters. Our letter-exchange lasted for three years and in this period of time we wrote more than 80 letters. In June of 2018 we saw each other again for the fist time. Embracing her felt like ‘coming home’. I never expected this reunification to happen, but it did and it still feels like a miracle to me. I am so so grateful and I will be grateful forever and ever heart

The book is also about how my childhood experiences affected my own motherhood. And how the childhood experiences of both my parents also had an influence on their parenthood. And how certain things are handed down from generation to generation and what you can do to break this chain.

The book will be published in the Netherlands in the beginning of April 2020 by one of the largest Dutch publishers: AmboAnthos.

If you want to know more, watch this Youtube Video (it’s in Dutch but subtitled in English) click here.

My grandmother and my motherMy mother and I in 1974My daughters

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Photography by Petra Hoogerbrug commissioned by Libelle

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